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Great post! The part about the Common had me laughing out loud. Thanks for that. And laughing because I remember well. Used to say when our son was a little guy he came in only two speeds: high and off. ADHD was the first label he received in late 1994, read a book about it and was like, “Close, but not there.” Kept going to doctors until he was diagnosed with Aspergers the next year. Read a book about Aspergers and was like, “This is it!” His services were all delivered from the Aspergers dx. All the other letters from the other labels he collected were just litter. Keep up your good attitude and sense of humor. They serve you well!!!
Great blog and funny too, I’ve been waiting years for someone to explain my two youngest boys ways and they have three order brothers so I know there’s a difference to the way they act and the way they do and deal with life but I don’t want labels either I just want to help them do and be the best they can 🙂
I often think that B sounds a lot like my DS who must be a little bit older (just 8). Anyway, he’s just had his ADHD ‘label’ confirmed and its actually been quite helpful as the various teachers who despair about his inability to sit still now have a reason and a better understanding. It doesn’t come with extra funding of course. But we are trying medication as well and thats interesting.
It never seems to stop does it.
Great post. Personally, I feel if the label is helpful, then go for it. If not, what’s the point? It doesn’t really mean anything.
I completely agree with your method of labeling. The best “therapy” we can get from and give to our kids is love, so everyone’s a winner.
My boy never stops either! Sometimes I check in case we have rubber walls XXX
We finally decided to give ritalin a short trial with our ASD-ADHD son, and have noticed some very positive changes. It feels like he is finally present in his body and no longer driven by it. We’re getting less aggression, more attempts at language and less frantic energy. The things we were afraid of haven’t happened – he’s still the same child, but his energy has been dialed down from an 11/10 to an 8/10. For us, it was a positive step.
=) sounds just like my son. is there an activity tho that really slows him down and keeps his focus ?
i do not know that for sure but i think the difference between autism and ‘just’ adhd is there. for Nemo, it was drawing and Lego before school.. and before the wii. I have tried channeling the incredible energy (all that JUMPING!! make.it.stop!) with sportsy activities but he pretty much rejected that, but we always walk the dogs a bit longer on non-school days.
I am only in the process of diagnosis too, and on the first long sheets from the school psy/guidance officer (who prediagnosed asperger’s) there was mention of adhd elements too..
i wondered about the term comorbidity too, read it for the first time this week..
i am in Australia, and here, it seems to depend on what state you are in to get the help you need..
i am lucky in Qld, at least now. when we changed from prep (your reception i think) to ‘real’ school, they intruduced drastically more ‘studious’ curricula in 1st grade and what followed was a bit like the apocalypse, seriously.. you are right to worry, it’s a HUGE change for them.
good luck with all this !! i will be following closely, you don’t live around the corner, but it sounds really pretty close to home! x
You’ve almost certainly tried this already, but on the slight off chance you haven’t, it may be worth trying omega 3. My son is ASD and i would say it definitely had a positive impact on him. We don’t do any other DAN interventions, but I’d really recommend this one. You can get it in nice chewy orange flavoured capsules and pass it off as jelly sweets! If you’re worried about mercury you can get highly purified (and expensive of course…) ones from Nordic Naturals. I really like your blog. I follow a few, but like the fact that yours is so British…. The others I like are American and they interesting and insightful, but there’s a bit too much awesoming and hugging going on for me. Good luck with it all. It’s tough, isn’t it, but you’re right that our kids have an enormous amount to give and we shouldn’t just define them by their challenges.
Some good advice here, thanks everyone x
Thank you for this post. My oldest son has aspergers and this post SO describes my 3 year old to a T (somehow he is asleep currently – must have had his dad up all night!). We are only on his first IEP and I’m in denial. Playgroup have 1-to-1 for him and have said they don’t think he will cope in mainstream school and it’s only actually reading this post that has made me understand why that is for him, so thank you again.
two peds said adhd but i knew there was something else. they said 2/3’s of asd kids are adhd. we went to childrens and he was diagnosed at 7 with asd and adhd. we recently medicated for the adhd and he is able to stop and focus and even start reading but now we see the asd coming out more instead of being glazed over by the hyperactivity and impulisivity. push to find out if he is adhd…
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