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Hi B’s Dad. I’m a qualified teacher in the States, but took a year out over here to work as a TA to see if I wanted to transfer my qualification. At that time I worked with a little boy who had Autism. I had heard stories about him over the years, but with the help of a very supportive school and hard-working parents, things seemed to calm down so I never had any major incidents. Until one day when he was enjoying a game I had made up on the playground he slipped. He wasn’t hurt, but he crumpled to the ground and when I went to check him to make sure he was okay, he tried to leap over the fence. Because I tried to stop him, he lashed out and kicked and swung at me. It was very upsetting (as I’m sure you were very upset to hear about the incident), but what was so helpful after the dust settled was to learn that there was a reason he reacted the way he did. When something he enjoyed would get derailed, it would really upset him. In that instance, trying to stop him and even check him over was too much for him to handle because he was already distressed. After a chat, he agreed just to sit down quietly until he felt better and was ready to rejoin whatever activity was taking place (more successful on some days than others). After such a major event it seemed such a simple solution. It’s so helpful when everyone knows there are things that trigger these incidents rather than just associating it with who the child is. I hope that with support, you can continue to find these triggers and help him to thrive even on those tough days that don’t seem to go ‘right’ for him.
Happy new Year and well done for getting through Christmas!
Autism Outreach sound as if they are doing a great job – the school will catch up!
A few examaples of perfectionism:
My son has Aspergers and if he reads a word incorrectly in a book he has to start the book or at least the chapter again. He also rarely draws because he finds it so frustrating. He used to get very frustrated when he went ‘over the line’ when colouring now he just doesn’t colour really. He also used to be very vocal telling everyone else how messy their work was but has learnt not to. We were also told he was behind with his developmental milestones because he didn’t babble when learning to speak but when he did speak he spoke using perfect sentences. He walked late but when he did walk he walked perfectly steadily and didn’t fall over. When he potty trained himself he did it (late according to books) in a day and never had a mishap. He inspires me really – but thats when he is not driving me mad!!
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